Monday, May 12, 2014

Loving and Losing

273 days....
...from the novel Goodbye for Now by Laurie Frankel

"To love is to lose. It's just that simple. Maybe not today but someday. It is the inevitable condition of humanity. Some sadness has no remedy. Some sadness you can't make better."

"But then why isn't everyone walking around miserable all the time?"

"Because ice cream still tastes good. And sunny and seventy-five is still a lovely day. And funny movies make you laugh, and work is sometimes fulfilling, and a beer with a friend is nice. And other people love you, too.  [Death] has been around since time immemorial. You've run up against it. And there's no getting around or over it. You stop and build your life right there at the base of that wall. But it's okay. That's where everyone else is too. Everyone else is either there or on their way. There is no other side, but there's plenty of space there to build a life and plenty of company. Welcome to the wall."

So I live my life right at that wall,  knowing that death is real and can't be avoided, and some days are indeed very, very good, while others are very very bad. But I do believe that those I love who have gone before me will be waiting. And the biggest reason this life can still seem bearable, and even often beautiful, is because of that hope.


  1. This is why my human doesn't like to be away from us kitties for too long - she knows that no matter how long we are with her, it is never enough time and she wants to make the most of it.

  2. we echo sparkle's human's sentiments.

    emma and buster

  3. Okay. I've found the wall. I'm going to remember that. Thank you. I need to figure out how to build.
    Hugs to you.

  4. We agree with Sparkle.
    It is important to make the most of the time we have. Important to spend time loving each other.
    We still remember those that have gone before, and we still miss them.
    Purrs Georgia and Julie,
    Treasure, JJ
    and Angels Tiger and Tillie

  5. Everyone has already said the important things. It's so important to love the ones we have with us while they are here. Time goes by so fast! Love them and make good memories we'll carry in our hearts forever. Big purrs to you.

  6. Awwwwww! Yes some days hurt, some days are ok, some days are full of love and memories. We go on in the hope that one day, one day!

    Wishing you all a lovely peaceful Monday! Take care

  7. Sending love…. I know the pain, hurt and sadness you feel...

  8. You always miss everyone of your cats but some are just extra special and leave a bigger hole in your heart.
    Luv Hannah and Lucy xx xx

  9. Sparkle nailed it once again. Love and hugs from us.

  10. The joy of love far outweighs the pain of loss even though, at times, that loss can feel like a dark, suffocating abyss. We need to find our way through the abyss to the memories of joy on the other side.


  11. Love and hugs to you!!
    Your TX furiends,
    Samanrga & Mom

  12. Yep mom says to always let those you treasure and love know it each and every day. Over the last year we have surely seen how life can change in a heart beat.
    Hugs madi your bfff

  13. To love is to loose ... so right.
    And .. the moment comes ... so frustrating not to be able to find the correct words in another language, a foreigh one.
    Hisia is like another part of me. I dont want to think of tomorrow. I want to cherish every minutes of today.
    My youngest sister left 10 months ago, just a few days before her 50th birthday. There is so many things that we did not do together ...
    Douce soirée
    Nat à Chat

  14. wow :( that was super heavy.
    My thoughts and prayers are always will those who have lost a beloved pet.
    ღ husky hugz ღ frum our pack at Love is being owned by a husky!

  15. That is such a great picture of you with Abby. Just terrific. Have a great day.

  16. Beautiful words! Totally agree! xox

  17. That's beautiful friend and M agrees with you. She also sends you HUGS.

  18. I miss mine gorgeous sweet tuxie princess Angel Abby.

    purrrssss n nosekissies your adoring floofy cocoapuff meezerman Sammy

  19. Cherish each moment...there's never enough of them.

  20. Amen to that! I am right there with you!
    Marty's Mom

  21. It's funny that meeting someone is never as strong an emotion as losing someone. I think it's because most of the time, we're never quite sure what the meeting will bring. The emotions take time to develop. But they are strong and full by the time we lose someone. I suppose it has to be that way, but it still hurts despite understanding why.

  22. So very true. And that you cannot feel the deep loss without the deep love

  23. Every day with our loved ones is precious. I do believe like you that we will see them all again when we pass.

    Cats of wildcat woods

  24. Every moment is precious, and they are far too few with us four-legs....

  25. These words,, mommy says she wants to read and re- read them over and over- cause they say a lot

  26. Without that hope, each day would only be a chore. Hugs, Janet


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