I talk about Grief a lot.
I know it's not a popular subject, but for
myself since Abby died, Grief took
me in a direction I would have
Her death in so many ways prepared me
for things that were to come in
Not unlike so many countless
others I've had my share of life's losses.
One right after the other.
There is nothing that will truly equip
you for the maelstrom that Grief encompasses.
But, her loss foreshadowed so many others,
and it sadly taught me about sorrow.
The feelings I had about Abby and her loss
I had to understand more.
Even in the sadness that was there,
my challenge was to understand it.
I've learned much to help myself deal with it all.
But, I know when the Grief Monster comes
for me again I will be like everyone else.
You succumb to overwhelming deprivation.
There is no where to hide from loss.
Even if your mind knows that eventually the
overwhelming part will subside,
I've learned it never goes away.
So, by 'trying' to console someone with
the you'll get over it crap is a terribly
debilitating burden to place on someone.
From what I've seen and heard, every single
person has had someone say something to them
that made them feel guilty for missing the thing they lost.
I will say just don't do it.
Just don't tell someone they'll get over it or to get on with
their lives. If they could, they would.
It's not something you get over.
You never do.
You learn how to live with it.
I still miss my Abby.
I still cry for her.
Now I know I always will.
And I vowed nearly 8 years ago,
as long as I lived
I would remember her.
I've kept my word Abby.