Thursday, November 28, 2013

Untraditional Thanksgiving


I think we all  want to control something that scares us. But we can't. I know I'm not in control of the universe (haven’t been offered the job yet), and I’m not in control of anyone else. I think we all want to help sometimes, bu it's beyond our control. What are the options?
Melting.
Not melted as in “had a meltdown”, which sounds wonderful if you like melted foods but actually isn’t. I mean melted as in stopping trying to control, stopped trying to change, and instead softened and accept.
Melting.
We can stop trying to change people, and just melt into their presence, just notice who they really are, just appreciate it. We can stop complaining about our life circumstances, about our losses, about how the world is, and just melt into it.
Just accept. Just notice. Just appreciate.
Just be thankful.
So this Thanksgiving, I'm melting and giving thanks to things that are out of my control and trying to move beyond my fear of them.

34 comments:

Mark's Mews (Ayla, Iza, and Marley) said...

There is a time to "accept". I won't say much beyond that. Only you know how you are feeling. But you will know a time to "remember" rather than "grieve".

I know.

Mark

Cheysuli and gemini said...

Hugs to you through this process--and know that you are never alone--no matter that it might feel that way.

Sparkle the Designer Cat said...

Thanks for your message today. I think my human needs to hear that too.

Old Kitty said...

Awww we wish you all a peaceful Thanksgiving without fear! Take care
x

Brian said...

Happy Thanksgiving dear friends!

Fuzzy Tales said...

Purrs and universal Light from us as you "celebrate" your Thanksgiving. We hope the day is a good one, in spite of sorrows. (((Hugs)))

Hannah and Lucy said...

We wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving Day and hope you aren't too sad.
Luv Hannah and Lucy xx xx

The Island Cats said...

What an important message for us all. Happy Thanksgiving to all of you! oxoxox

Sometimes, Cats Herd You said...

Such a touching post. It's an important thing for all of us to remember. We hope you have a peaceful Thanksgiving. Much love from all of us, and a little extra from Ashton to Mr. Jinx.

Annie Bear said...

We hope you all have a happy Thanksgiving. Accepting and giving thanks are definitely good things. Please take good care. I hope this isn't too sad of a day for you.

meowmeowmans said...

That's beautiful and so very true. We are thankful for you, and for your friendship. Big hugs to you and your family on this Thanksgiving day.

Layla Morgan Wilde ( Cat Wisdom 101) said...

Warm purrs and hugs to you this T'day. Yes to melting and acceptance. We're social media sharing every blog we visit to share the love and pay it forward <3

Maxwell, Faraday and Allie said...

BEautiful, gorgeous photo, and a perfect framing for your beautiful sentiments. Purring that you are able to melt into the thankfulness - and that you take it at your own speed.

Jenn said...

That is a great message. Hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Tillie and Georgia said...

Happy Thanksgiving.
That is a good message.
We must learn to accept things we cannot change even when we know it hurts.We cannot go around things, we must go through them.

Purrs Tillie and Georgia,
Treasure,Tiger, JJ and Julie

Barb and the Gs said...

Happy Thanksgiving, to you and your whole gang, honey. We can only do the best we can... None of us can control anything. Not one blessed thing... although many foolishly try.

Cathy Keisha said...

I am thankful to call you furrend. Wishing you and yours a pawsome Thanksgiving/Turkey Day. Hope you get some turkey!

The Furries of Whisppy said...

That is a very good message. Thank you. :)

Happy Thanksgiving from all of us!

Julia Williams said...

Beautiful post and a perfect message for this day.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Jan's Funny Farm said...

A very good idea. We all need to melt more. Happy Thanksgiving.

Cheri Wildcatwoods said...

Wonderful wise post. We know what you feel today and accepting and being thankful are the best things you can do. Happy Thanksgiving from our family to yours.

Cats of wildcat woods

PS love your leaf shot and the blog header!

Nerissa said...

It's true, you know. None of us can control anything but our own behaviour (and some can't even control THAT!) so it really is best to simply accept what we can't control and make peace with it. Makes like a whole lot easier. Don't you think?

Purrs,
Nissy

Bev Green said...

Thinking of you at this time and sending our thanks for your beautiful heart felt words.hugs Fozziemum x

SpittySpeaks said...

That's a good message for us all. Because I think until we "melt" and stop focusing on our fears, we aren't able to embrace what life has to teach us.

Hope you all have a wonderful day XOXOXO

Austin Towers said...

A day for sweet memories! Happy Thanksgiving :) xx

Flynn said...

I hope that you are able to melt into the day and it helps you get through another first. It is a good idea and I hope I am able to learn to do it too. (((hugs)))
Happy Thanksgiving to you and all our friends in the US.

Mariodacatsmom said...

Happy Thanksgiving dear friends. Beautiful post today - and a very good idea. Sometimes I think we all need to Melt a little bit more.

Clooney said...

Great message and beautiful picture. Happy Thanksgiving to you all!

michico*Adan*Lego-小芥*阿丹*樂高 said...

Happy Thanksgiving~

Texas, a Cat in... Austin said...

Happy Thanksgiving from all of us!
Purrs

Caren Gittleman said...

I soooooooooooooo need to do THIS!! "We can stop trying to change people, and just melt into their presence, just notice who they really are, just appreciate it. We can stop complaining about our life circumstances, about our losses, about how the world is, and just melt into it.
Just accept. Just notice. Just appreciate.
Just be thankful."
Thank you for the reminder
xoxoxo

Kitties Blue said...

That was a very brave post, Debra. Good look with achieving this. Purrs and hugs, Lily Olivia, Mauricio, Misty May, Giulietta, Fiona, Astrid, Lisbeth and Calista Jo

savannahspawtracks.com said...

this melting is difficult but it does bring us all grace

Meg & Quill said...

I like that. Happy Thanksgiving to you!! Late... sigh!